I was informed today that one of our colleagues has burnt his wife and that she is lying near death in the hospital. He threw alcohol at her while she was cooking and set fire to her in front of their teenage daughter. His wife had told him that she wanted a divorce.
Of course what is extremely painful for me is the fact that I know the man very well, since we have been working together and though I don’t know his wife, I pain for her since I am a woman. But my question is: do men also see this as an act unworthy of a decent man, and do other people find that this is just intolerable.
I ask this because since the word of this horrible thing has been out, I have collected different reactions from people who have heard of it and I am wondering whether I might be overeacting. Some men think, that she brought this upon herself since she angered her husband, and some say that she had been creating this situation over time and he did not have any choice. Others are shocked but by the middle of the day, they just got on with their daily work, and for others again it was a splendid story to share with friends and see how much others knew of the story.
From all that I wondered – is that what happens where someone is struck by tragedy, I mean by dinner time everyone has forgotten about you and your misfortune and no one, thinks of how to help you. Tonight, as my family and I sit for dinner, I think of that woman and how she must be suffering alone in her bed, and I think of the child who saw that event, and I think of the husband and If he is feeling sorry for what he did. What do you think?